A month battle against myself

Its been a month now and I’m doing great. =) Apparently as time flies by and my mind shifted with other subjects like what really matters most and your business – not on your own self (other self perhaps? or even external self i.e. God). Craving (psychological and physical cravings – psychological being the most potent of the two – physical can just trigger the psychological part) is just a matter of focusing through others and seeing others as your self-image. How do you see yourself? From now? which lets you shift your mind-gravity into what really matters aside from feeding your soul with pleasure.

So the multi-million dollar question is: How did I combat it effectively to this date and hopefully tomorrow or the years to come?

the Answer would be to:

  1. Realize that you are fucked up, you mis-managed your time and you do not care anymore about yourself and have no self-respect, and *nothing* you can do about it. It just persist – even if you wanted not to.
  2. Instill to yourself that no one can help you aside from yourself and God – and some good friends that really hopes you well.
  3. Make a determination not to quit but to lessen it until its gone.
  4. Just forget about it! Shift your focus from your *self* to others like business, God, friends, etc.
  5. Have some support network of good friends.
  6. Have a really good determination to be apathetic about it. So what? You can just have coffee and boom, youre just as productive if not even more.  Afterall, you are just as fucked up as you are now – so why not just have a coffee break and be productive in what really matters.
  7. Surround yourself with hobbies (not vices) you cant live without. Participate in extreme sports. Water sports proved to be more of a challenge and hard to master at first.
  8. Well, thing is, just forget about it. It just have to be recreational, so why are you submitting yourself through it like it is some sort of god who empowers you? If you cant control it in 5 straight days without, have a will to just KILL & SHOOT yourself – seriously.
  9. It really helps to have a support friends that will empower you to think other subjects even when they are gone. I’m an IT person and technology generally amazes me – even with cool ideas.  And since I am a software engineer, implementing those ideas are more appealing.  My friends generally guided me to just forget about the cravings, and think things as to implementing those suggested ideas.
  10. By saying forget about it, you are not forgetting it, instead you are just craving.
  11. In summary, my most effective escape is: “Shift your focus; Be others centered; Deliver value to community.”

Shift your focus triggers your mind to think shift and readying for some changes.

Other centered means focusing on stuffs that generally matter – like people, community, business, sports, etc. Not yourself in isolation.  Having goals that is other centered like being with God, making a business, helping people, excelling in extreme sports, learning mixed-martial-arts, making an application for android phones, etc.

Delivering value means manifesting or implementing your other-centered goals.  This will in the process, regain your personal trust and respect as well as self-forgiveness.

 

Expressing words in binary

Do you feel the need to shortcut everything?  Especially when you feel lazy typing everything on a messaging system like Yahoo or Skype… or even cellphone to some techy guys.  Here’s how:

Convert short answers to binary.

Okay or not = Yes or no = true or false = just type 1 or 0

Thanks = thank you = 10x (tenx) = 2x (in decimal form, but every techy guys understands this)

Finally, on some surveys that you dont wanna give your name exclusively, but you feel honest about it.  Just give your name in binary form. – That way its still valid.

Dependent personality disorder

Am gonna post some of the passages from this article:

http://www.minddisorders.com/Del-Fi/Dependent-personality-disorder.html

Definition:

  • Persons with dependent personality disorder are docile, passive, and nonassertive
  • They exert a great deal of energy to please others, are self-sacrificing, and constantly attempt to elicit the approval of others
  • They are easily influenced and can be taken advantage of easily
  • Patients with dependent personality disorder have a low level of confidence in their own intelligence and abilities
  • They often have difficulty making decisions and undertaking projects on their own
  • They are prone to be pessimistic, self-doubting, and belittle their own accomplishments
  • They shy away from responsibility in occupational settings
  • Affected individuals are uneasy being alone and are preoccupied with the fear of being abandoned or rejected by others
  • Their style of thinking is naïve, uncritical, and lacks discretion

Causes:

It is commonly thought that the development of dependence in these individuals is a result of over-involvement and intrusive behavior by their primary caretakers. Caretakers may foster dependence in the child to meet their own dependency needs, and may reward extreme loyalty but reject attempts the child makes towards independence. Families of those with dependent personality disorder are often do not express their emotions and are controlling; they demonstrate poorly defined relational roles within the family unit.

Individuals with dependent personality disorder often have been socially humiliated by others in their developmental years. They may carry significant doubts about their abilities to perform tasks, take on new responsibilities, and generally function independently of others. This reinforces their suspicions that they are incapable of living autonomously. In response to these feelings, they portray a helplessness that elicits caregiving behavior from some people in their lives.

Symptoms:
  • Have difficulty making common decisions.  Needs excessive amounts of advise.
  • Need others to assume responsibility for them.  Withdraw responsibilities by acting passive and helpless.
  • Have difficulty expressing disagreement with others
  • Have difficulty initiating or doing things on their own.  Lacks self-confidence.
  • Feel helpless when alone. Because they feel incapable of caring for themselves, they experience significant anxiety when alone. To avoid being alone, they may be with people in whom they have little interest

Am I *TOOL* dependent?

One of my colleagues struck me by saying “you are tool dependent”.   From the very moment he said that to me, I agree deep within – although I never answer or loudly answer YES.  I know what he means by that and now I’m asking myself that very question.  In order to answer that question, lets define first what being tool dependent is?

  • Explores a lot of tools, recursively
  • Is lazy
  • Yet is ideal
  • The goal is to produce or optimize things with very little effort
  • Does not focus on the subject matter but instead focuses on the tools to accomplish the problem or the subject matter
  • Kills time for tool exploration
  • Plays alot with the tools
  • Spends time doing boilerplate codes
  • A tool slave – relies on the tools very much
  • Always buying time or always lacks time
  • Never get things done
  • Couldn’t get things done without the tools
  • Having a hard time controlling oneself
  • Does not have self-discipline
  • Have an attention deficit disorder
  • Easily persuaded by tools
  • Jack of all trades, master of none
  • Critical thinker
  • Creative thinker to the point of once a problem occurs, the solution instantaeneously pops out of the brain and then performs research about what tool accomplishes the problem instead of analyzing the problem first and then acting after.
  • An action man without thinking first
  • You overly submit oneself to that way
  • Has a lot of options because of the result of finding a lot of possible tools and solutions to solving a particular problem.
  • Always planning to escape being tool dependent but cannot
  • Tends to over-analyze things

From this definition alone, I would say I am.  Well, I just made up this definition from what I understand to be a tool dependent.

Upon reflecting, here I think are ways to escape from being a tool dependent person.

  • A determination to change
  • An everyday re-assessment of goals if it gets done
  • Focus and focus on solving the subject matter by not relying from the tools
  • Organize
  • Follow up
  • Focus on personal development – by not using those tools
  • Have a general sense of whats happening – have a birds eye view
  • Think first before acting
  • Always rely to oneself.  Don’t be dependent to things – and don’t escape the situation
  • Develop a sense of independence
  • Believe in your own competency
  • Gain personal mastery and self-control

Systematic way of tackling tool dependence.

  • Being dependent on things means holding on desperately to things to give life a meaning or direction.  In this case, to give you a desired solution to the problem you are tackling.
  1. Be willing to let go of the tools.  Begin by resenting those tools that can keep you back from all that you are capable of.
  2. Have the ability to self-initiate and lead oneself.
  3. Limit the tool selection to just 3, so that at least you have the options.
  4. Don’t over-analyze things for your pleasure.
  5. Practice, practice, practice.  From what I’ve heard, all it takes to acquire a habit is to perform it for two weeks consistently.  For example, if you are lazy to brush your teeth everyday – and you want to do something about it; train your mind and *do* it for two weeks and it becomes a habit.

Creating an iPhone Ringtone

iPhone ringtone costs more than the real song version of it.  Man, that sucks!  Here’s how to create one from your favorite MP3.

  1. Open iTunes
  2. Find the song you want to convert.
  3. Find the part you want to use as ringtone.  Ringtone has a limit of 40 seconds.  You can start from chorus or beats if you want.  Note the start and end time.
  4. Right click the song, and click on the Get Info
  5. Select the Options tab and check the Start and End time
  6. Type in the start and end time.  Must be less than or equal to 40 seconds.
  7. Click OK
  8. Right click the song and click on Create AAC Version.
  9. iTunes will create another song (your ringtone) that has 40 seconds playable time.
  10. Right click that song, and click on the Get Info
  11. Right click on the path of the file, and click on Show in Windows Explorer if you are using Windows.
    • If you are using Mac, open the file folder until you find that song.  Use the path as your guide.
  12. Rename that song from *.m4a to *.m4r file extension.
  13. Double click on the renamed file sound to import it to iTunes as a ringtone.

Cheers!

Top 100 Millionaires

Industries of the richest man

1. IT – software, tech, innovation (microsoft)
2. Investments – stocks, bonds (berkshire)
3. Telecom (mexico)
4. Furniture design – (ikea) sweden
5. Steel (india)
6. Casino, Hotels – vegas
7. LVMH
8. Clothing (Zara)
9. Investments – diversified (HK)
10.IT – software, business acquisition (Oracle)
11.Makeups – l’oreal
12.Investments diversified (saudi)
13.Aldi germany
14.Petrochemicals – india
15.Aldi germany
16.Oil – russia
17.Hennes and Mauritz sweden
18.Diversified – india
19.Investments, IT, software
20.Aldi, Trader Joe
21.IT Software – india
22.Real estate – HK
23.Retail – wal-mart
24.Retail – wal-mart
25.IT – web services (google)
26.IT – webservices (google)
27.Retail – wal-mart
28.IT – hardware (dell)
29.IT – software (microsoft)
30.Investments – casinos
31.Real estate – hk
32.Retail – france
33.Stocks – russia
34.Steel – russia
35.Rent-a-car
36.Metals
37.metals
38.retail
39.leveraged buyouts
40.Fidelity
41.Drugs
42.cox enterprises
43.oil, banking
44.oil, commodities
45.media
46.construction
47.eyewear
48.steel
49.real estate
50.banking
51.packaging
52.candy
53.candy
54.oils, metals
55.aviation
56.echoStar
57.chocolates (ferrero)
58.telecom
59.real estate
60.clothing (chanel)
61.bmw, drugs
62.nike sports

Updates for the t-shirt biz

We just bought a new Digital heat-press machine last Saturday.  We haven’t tested it yet since we still have a printer to buy.  So no t-shirt outputs yet.  We are working on it within the week and we hope to produce sample t-shirts.

The digital heat press machine transaction took about 5 hours since we opted that the merchant teaches us the basics and the fundamentals of t-shirt transfer business.  For reference, we will post the materials in the comment side.

Tasks delegation would be:  I will handle the marketing side.  Jeff will be the finance and Mike will be the operations.  Of course its not done without the output product – we will all be the production workhorse.

Using the Freemind tool, click here for Mike’s todo list.  Click here for mine.

We have updated / created the following for use:

On the side note:

My mixer just arrived last Oct. 17. I was really happy for it.  The transaction was very fast and I didn’t expect it to be – the last time I ordered from the net took more than 1 month to be delivered.  Now, the delivery works wonders – just 1 week.   I tested the Pioneer SE-DJ5000 headset for professional DJ and it wows me – until now I’m exited to test the mixer but I cant since its power input is at 120 volts.  As soon as I find an AVR power regulator, I will test it right away.  Cheers!